This is what works for me:
If someone else can do it, I can learn it. It might take time, but that is how highly I regard my learning abilities. If I want to learn to play football, it will take daily practice, good teachers and many other things. Eventually, I will get there. I will probably be 80+ before I am semi-skilled in football, but I will get there. Is it the best way to spend my days? I ask myself why I want to learn football: How does learning to play football bring me joy (along with all the psychological and physiological injuries)? What do I imagine being a skilled football player will bring into my life?
Ordinarily, my goals are not milestones but lived values. I decide on a goal when I know why I am motivated. (Hopefully) I start.
When I hit the wall (I will! Otherwise, I am not aiming high enough!), I take several deep breaths and think, “This, too, shall pass”. I know it will. Hitting the wall means there is something I had not planned for in my learning journey, and I remind myself that every corpse on Mount Everest was once a highly motivated person, unprepared for what happened next. I step back and look for what is missing in my preparation. But I don’t give up.
Occasionally, I read others’ understanding of some disabilities as “superpowers”. I honestly believe the only existing superpowers are resilience and finding ways to empower myself. Naming it a “disability” or a “superpower” is to simplify one of the conditions of my life:
I am dis-abled when my surroundings don’t accommodate technical solutions, working arrangements, training, and awareness-raising measures.
When my surroundings are accommodating, I can live, learn, and make my own mistakes—just like any other person with similar talents.
What are your expectations for yourself? When do you feel gratified with your accomplishments?